Last night I was out to dinner with a group of friends. As the clock struck 9pm and the band began to play the restaurant/bar atmosphere shifted. It went from adults having dinner and nice conversations to an atmosphere of desperation and show. Not only could you feel it, but you could hear it, and see it.

Heads and hair being tossed back followed by fake laughter.

Conversation amongst women about other women in the bar (Let the competition begin).

Skirts hiked up to not only expose leg, but to expose what was between legs.

Cleavage and chest hair as far as the eye could see.

OK, I realize that being in your 40s (even 30s and up) and single can be a challenge. I also understand that is difficult to meet others, I truly do. What I don’t get is why the need to put on a show just to make a connection with the opposite sex?!

What happens when the clothes go back on and you’re standing in the cold light of day? Do people honestly believe that a good show equates to quality companionship?

Oh, duh...I just had a light bulb moment; maybe quality is not what people are after. Maybe people are just looking for free drinks, a few fake laughs, or a one night stand. In that case to each their own; that’s cool.

Thanks for the eye-opener and the lesson. I think I will steer clear of the bar scenes and remember to always keep it real; even if real means staying single.